Why does that sound so dreadful?
I have heard so many stories have parent's having trouble co-parenting. What is co-parenting? It's coming together as divorced or separated and working together to be the best parents you can be for the child(ren) you have together. However, it is not easy to do, especially after a divorce. Sometimes emotions are crazy and may be all over the place. Especially when its still fresh from a divorce, which can make co-parenting stressful and extremely difficult. It is still possible to have a successful co-parenting relationship, even if the divorce was a nightmare. I know.. you are thinking, "Yeah right. Only in the movies". Seriously. IT IS POSSIBLE! It will not be easy though. It would require serious work and respect for the other parent for it to work. You also have to set aside your ego and those crazy emotions and put the child(ren) first before anything to get the best results.
Personally, my CP (co-parent) and I are still trying to find our footing. It's a process. I believe as long as we both try to communicate well with one another, have respect for each other, and always put our children first. Then there is no reason why we couldn't have a great co-parenting relationship. After all, it is what is best for our children.
My goal through all of this, is that even though my ex and I are no longer together and we both have moved on, we can still be great parents together. Hopefully, down the line when we really get the co-parenting thing down, we will be able to do some events together and actually enjoy it. lol. It is a goal.
I would like for my children to be able to look back on their childhood and remember all the good times. Ultimately parents want the best for their children. Happiness, good health, good education, be respectful, and be successful in life. Their children and they shouldn’t have to worry about the adult stuff. Keep them as innocent as long as possible.
Divorce or a breakup does not make family stop, choice to abandon it does. Birthdays and holidays should not be a tug-of-war. Children just want to be with their family and be happy. After all, you are bound for life to this family, so why not still be like a family? It is ultimately your choice to choose to be happy. It is your choice to make it easier on your children instead of harder and stressful. Show love instead of hate. Set the example.
If you are struggling with co- parenting, here are my personal tips that hopefully will help.
1. Let go of whatever emotions you have between you and your co-parent. It’s no longer about you or your relationship, it is strictly about the child(ren). So set aside your ego.
2. Keep the communication open. Trust me, this is a key factor.
3. Respect. You had a child together. You once had that respect. This is the father/mother of your child(ren), so treat them with respect. Another key factor!
4. Do not keep your child(ren) from the other parent because YOU are mad at them. It is hard to set aside those feelings, but again it is about the children. It is healthy for them to have both of their parents apart of their lives (unless they are dangerous of course).
5. Do not alienate the kids from the people they love just because of a divorce or a breakup happened.
Well, that is all. Just wanted to let you know my personal thoughts on it. Have more tips and advice? Comment below! I am always open to more advice and what works for you!
Happy Friday! Have a great weekend!